Find Love ? or Build Love ?

If you are expecting another typical "ugly truth" post about love making, sorry to disappoint you, as there is nothing about sex for this post. ( I hope ).

So we are talking about love ~

Love love love ~

Everyone is always asking, what is love ?

Is love that "thing" which you can't explain between 2 person ? Is it that "thing" which changes everything ?

Well, many of my friends are envy about me, a man who found love and being bless to be in a long running and stable relationship. Envy me not people, I believe that you do not find love and neither do love finds you. If that's the case, where does love comes from ??

We BUILD Love.

What is love at 1st sight ? Do you believe love at 1st sight ? I don't - I only believe in LUST at 1st sight. It's the shell of a person we see at the very 1st sight and very likely what runs through your mind could be " I wanna do this girl", " I can so squeeze that wadever" kinda thoughts.

Are you looking for a fairy tale kinda love ?

Are there THAT many prince out there for every princess ?

What if I am not a prince and neither are you a princess ?

Is there always a right ONE for everyone ?

What if I am always waiting for the right one and let everyone nice to me just come and go in my life and I end up with no one ?

I have many ( in fact too many) friends who are still single but they are not even open to going out on a date. If you guys do not go on a date, you guys will never know who is that right person.

Quote Joey from F.R.I.E.N.D.S : there are so many kind of ice cream of different flavors. It's more than just cookies and creams, there are vanilla, chocolate, rum and raisin, so in order to try them, you have to pick up a spoon !

Yes, give each other a chance and BUILD love.

Love is not a miracle and it doesn't just happen overnight, but of course I am not encouraging to compromise your happiness by jumping into a relationship every chance you get.

I blame our media for the misconception of love and relationship, movies, dramas and even novels. People live in them and thought that everyone's relationship should be as romantic and as fantasy as those they read and watch, but the fact is fairy tales do not happen on everyone.

So how do we build love? I am sure we( ah Dum and I) are a pretty good example. I am sure I am not the good looking guy, neither am I rich nor am I powerful and smart. We keep our doors open to know each other better and then as how everything should work, man and woman knows where things should go after that.

Another good example would be like our parents and family. I am sure we do not fall in love with our family at 1st sight. We learn to appreciate and love them for all they have done for us, all they care for us and how they are always there for us when we needed them. If there is someone who is willing to do so for you and he/she is not part of your family but will you slowly develop feelings for him/her? But then again if you do not give him/her a chance to show such concern and care for you, will there ever be a chance for him/her to do all these if you are not willing to open up ?

But what if you already open up to this very very nice person and end of the day you still feel that you guys just can't work out in this r/s? It's really a case to case thing where it might be because that person possess certain quality which you can't accept

or maybe because he/she just come from a

whole different world and communication just

seems to be impossible. At least guys tried right ?

Of course, neither am I trying to say that everyone

is possible for everyone to be together

and spend the rest of their life together.

So what I am saying is that ladies and gentlemen out there, at least give each other a chance and never say never.

IF you are single, YES I am talking about YOU !

You SHOULD NOT say that he/she is not the right one.

You SHOULD NOT say that you can't get a date when you didn't try.

You SHOULD NOT just aim those good looking people as date.

You SHOULD NOT just sit and wait for the right one.

You SHOULD NOT give excuses to your life like you are happy alone or you do not need someone in your life.

and

You SHOULD make more friends.

You SHOULD say yes to dates.

You SHOULD follow your heart.

You SHOULD create more opportunity and go for it !

So now everyone let's get hitch,get laid get attached, and be loved.

"And now ladies and gentlemen, that's the beautiful truth"