Should You Save Your Friend?

Everybody have friends, everybody have different types of friends and I am sure everybody hope to have at least one friendship that makes you feel like you are in an exclusive "team".

 From hanging out at the bar together everyday after work or hanging out together watching Starwars,

 to hanging out at the coffee place everyday or hanging out watching die hard together,

or even hanging out at their place eating takeout everyday or hanging out watching StarTrek together.

But how difficult is it to maintain a strong bond like these? (Especially when you have someone like Sheldon in the group.)

This post will probably become a book or maybe even a wiki if I want to go on talking about how to make friends and blah blah blah which is why I've decided to talk about just 1 thing:

Something the HIMYM folks like to do.

How many of you guys can actually take an open intervention from your friends positively?

 The question is simple:

There are things that you don't agree that your friend(s) should be doing but it makes him/her happy. What's your call?

Some replies from twitter and facebook:

I mean like how I always explains such issues with most people is that this is what your conscious mind is saying to you now, of course things will change a little depending on the situation, who is it and maybe even how it happened. 

I guess the bottom line for me is "it's his life he should know what to do and he should bear the consequences anyway." but as a friend when you care and love your friend, do you think it is possible for you to just stay and cross your arms and watch your friend fall in a slump(or just any other situation which you think it is bad.)? So what I would normally do is just maybe give an advise (IF I'm asked to) and say "just my 2 cent worth and the ball is in your court and I am happy for you no matter what your decision is." So friends, if you see me saying this line, it probably means "I really don't agree with you... but I love you.. so whatever." 

Is this not an uncommon scenario in all your friendships where you are trying to give some advise and it ended up instead of solving problem it created more trouble. 

So what makes one a good friend? Should you always be there to "save" your friend regardless of the situation?

Taking this straight out from a friend's blog.

"The truth is that letting your friend engage in what you perceive to be ‘suicide’ does not mean that you are walking away from your friend’s life, no, it just means that you have chose to stay in this friendship, consistently watching as a bystander. Sometimes that is even harder than just fighting and completely walking away from your friends."

"I guess the bottom line is knowing that what is important in a friendship is not so much dissuading your friends from making decisions that you believe is bad for them, rather it is about standing at the bottom of the cliff to catch them when it is all done and they need to find a new direction."

I think Carrie just took the words out of my mouth and phrase it even more beautifully than I ever could have done. 

I don't even know why I am writing this when I could have just paste that link to you.  

Mr.Smith, I don't judge you, I won't stop you but I will catch you if you fall.