Like a very popular online quote says " Opinion is like ass, everyone has one" Especially for me, I have a big ass and in fact yes, I have my own opinion and more often I have a very different tolerance as well as point of view for many things. So how does that put me in a society like mine where yes man are much appreciated and conformity like social ethic ? Frankly I have no idea where it puts me on my scale as a friend or a co-worker.
From my experience there are two major type of people with different opinions. 1 debates cause he or she has it's own set of thinking and will try to explain his or her point of view. 2. argues for the sake of being different and more often than not this group of people ain't just trying to explain his or her view but more of trying to convince you to buy his/her point. Many individual assume that understand means agree but to me not so.
For example; I might understand why you steal money from your best friend cause your grandmother needed the money but I do not agree, cause technically you did it for your grandmother who needed the money but logically you could have do it the other way, ask your friend.
So what's my point? My point is about how to be tactful and get yourself out of situations where we have different opinion without hurting anyone as well as making your point? In short, how to dissolve a debate.(*Notice I use the word dissolve and not win, cause I do not believe that there is a win or lose when it comes to debate.) Especially for people like me who believes in speaking out my mind and educating the other party what my point is, I believe the best way is to explain and bring that person through with simply examples and logic to let the person understand my point. I am saying that let him/her understand but not to agree. If I am able to let him understand my point, he/she will agree with it if my point is valid, else it's about time I think about my own point of debate, am I right? or maybe I judge much too fast? Having a mind of your own doesn't means you are always right. Nobody is always right. You can be very sure of what you are doing but that doesn't make you right, and obviously not all the time. In fact life ain't just about black and white or right and wrong. Even pantone black and white comes in grey in fact many many tones of grey. My point is nothing is absolute so the best is to get a common group and understanding. ( but of course if the debate is if 2+2=4, yes there is a correct answer and THAT is THE correct answer.)
As for people who just want to argue and debate plus being really stubborn over their points and thinks they are always right, i usually rest my case. In fact you will notice that if I do not debate with you it doesn't means that I have no point to, it just means that I can't be bothered cause you never get my point and not to mention making you agree with me. It also means that your opinion no longer makes a difference in my life. That's also a sign that you should pull your head out of your ass.
There are people who just wants to walk against the traffic to get the attention. I am sure we all meet such people in our life especially being on social media platform such as forum and twitter. Everyday we will see some people trying to be a champion and question the obvious and making half past six argument trying to get famous. There are also people who debates or argue cause they do not like you and debates like this gets very personel and you too can simply ignore those argument. They are often childish and doesn't change your life regardless if you make your point or not. As for me, i believe that constructive debates sparks new ideas just like how I always talk to myself in my head. #TrueStory
There are different ways to handle difficult people in life. In fact I believe I am one of them cause I can easily understand your point but I'm not easy to convince and on top of that like I mention I will debate my point, prove my point and make your understand my point and I do not let go if I have strong believe in my point too. My final advise to you is still try to find a common ground where both parties can compromise. The legen.. wait for it.. DARY ~ "Give and Take" . I am never a person who believes in a take it all when it comes to a discussion. Above is just my 2 cent worth, I am not always right thus free free to send in your debate. ;P
Mr.Smith, Give and Take makes life easier for everyone no?
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