I mean many of us know how man can be very easily attracted to woman who have nice display pictures and starts to get all flirty and "fall in love". With this fact in mind, how should man overcome this force and really show the girl that he is really interested to be more than just friends rather than just trying to get into her pants? Below are some pointers I came out with, I am no love saint and neither did I get a chick online so just read it for entertainment kay?
Let's begin with the Don'ts ! It's important to avoid the Don'ts cause doing the Dos ain't gonna help if you are doing the Don'ts as well.
The DON'Ts
- Tailgating her Tweets/Comment - I know how ladies like the attention you are giving them at times but tailgating her tweets/comment ain't cool. What is this? It simply means that you replies to ALL her tweets and comment regardless of what she is saying. In another words, you are a cyber stalker !
- Follow/Friend all her friends on twitter and facebook - We all know it's good to know who you are dealing with but by disturbing people around her ? Ain't cool. This is textbook in real life dating isn't it? So now we know actually cyber dating ain't exactly too far away from your real life dating right?
- Don't Overshare your joy - It seems to me that my 1st 3 points are basically pretty much the same thing, do not go too fast and scare people away. Remember how fun dating is when you guess how she's feeling and she is guessing your's as well? As transparent as social media is, posting comments on your twitter/fb ain't gonna help. Especially things like "The date was awesome", "I am happy tonight". I mean no doubt you let her know about it, but the whole world is talking about it too. Then comes the comments such as "How is she?", "Looks like you are having a gf soon?", "Congras! Let me know when is your wedding". Imagine the kind of stress she is getting? It could have been developed into something awesome from a normal dinner date but because of all these stress, she might choose to drift away?
- EMO NOT - Do you guys seriously think that emo and acting pity will get you far? No i say, no woman will like a man who whines on the timeline that much about how he wants to kill himself over some other girls. Who wanna get's themselves into a situation where this guy bitch about you once you reject him? I don't know about you but I am saying this is a NO NO!
- Cryptic Tweets - One of the most awesome kinda tweets you can find on your timeline. Example : "If you can't get it, don't whine". There are so many classic cryptic tweets and you do not know what it really means. It could be because of you, it might not be as well, so why make people worry? Things like " I miss her". You could be dating other girls, you could be missing your late grandmother but don't you think the girl will think that you are talking about her since you guys went for a date recently? And guess what? She could be worrying a lot? Like REALLY A LOT?
The DOs
- Read Her Blog - Remember how I mention above about not tailgating her tweet or following all her friends? No doubt about that but it's still good to know about her life, what she likes, what she doesn't and pay attention to little part of her life. If she doesn't blog? Well she has to be on twitter or fb right? Reading those helps too.
- IMs - Skype, GChat, MSN are a very good form of communication to know people better. You can chat like everything under the sun and it's very causal. Best part, it's private, no one else is reading it. *Warning* - same thing as tweeting and fb status, DO NOT TAILGATE. Do not message her immediately she gets online. Just play it cool and wait awhile as if you didn't see her. You never know, she might come and message you first . :)
- Tweetup Over Date - Want to know each other better? Organize a tweetup or invite her to a tweetup where there are other tweeps. You can still know her better and it's less intimidating. Best part is that no expectation and no awkwardness if things does not turn out well right?
- If it's over, it's over - Know when to stop, if you realize that it's over and not possible so be it. DO NOT ask silly questions like " why are you not following me", "why did you unfollow me". It's as simple as that, it's social media. If you fail on target one, call it a day and move on. ;p
The bottom line of Social Media Dating is as simple as a normal dating. Always play it cool, do not look desperate and know when to talk.(and when to shut up). There are definitely much much much more to add on to the two lists above but I am just listing these few as I felt that they are the more critical points about online dating especially when it's a very very transparent community. Feel free to share with me what do you think as well as challenge any of the points above, I'm very open (to ideas) as you all should know.
Mr.Smith, I know about love as much as I know about sex. :p
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While doing the social media dating then we need some tips while handling the online dating? Therefore while online dating we need to follow some particular tips.
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