I might not be the best person...

What am I doing in front of the computer at this timing when it's raining heavily ? I could be sleeping in late since I am working from home and I have settle all my errand for the week. I woke up early at 7am because my brother ask me for breakfast even when I actually went to bed at 4am last nite, for those who just know me recently I will do almost virtually everything for my brother.

Anyway we were having a little update and chat over breakfast and this topic came up and we both agree to. This is like the number 78564872153913 things on the "We are alike cause we are brothers" list. What is it this time round ?

- " We might not be the best person to turn to for advice if all you want are beautiful words"

In every point of our life there will be friends who come to you for real advise due to your expertise be it in sports, work or basically just experience but on the other hand there will be friends who pop by just to "grumble".

So what are some of the very common grumble and complains?

"My girlfriend is a bitch, she spend all my money"

"My company sucks cause my colleague got bonus and I don't"

"My job sucks but I do not want to do anything about it"

"My boyfriend might be cheating on me and I am paranoid"

So how do I identify which of the above are grumble which you just want me to agree with you and which are those that I am going to give you a real reply ? As a friend we believe in telling you the truth and offer the "best" advise but how many of those "grumbling" friends can take the truth in such a harsh way? I'm a salesman by nature and you guys know I am, so basically if you want beautiful words, you want it you get it but is that what you want from a real friend? Let's take a look at the above "grumble" again and with my answers this time round.

"My girlfriend is a bitch, she spend all my money"

Fakey Smith : Ya lor, she damn bitch one lor. spend all ur money and she is not even pretty. She is not even giving you the sex you want !

Truth Smith : Comon lah, I mean if she is spending all your money and you do not like it you should talk to her about it. Ask her why must she do it and maybe share with her that you are not too comfortable and than see how you can resolve this problem?

"My company sucks cause my colleague got bonus and I don't"

Fakey Smith : Wah.. fuck leh this company.. quit lah.. u are such a good worker and since you came in same time as ur colleague you shld get it too lor !

Truth Smith : hmmm. I am not too sure about your working ability but I mean before you ask what the company can give you, you shld think about what you have done or what is the major difference btw you and your colleague? He might have done something better and really deserve it? bonus as the name suggest is a bonus.

"My job sucks but I do not want to do anything about it"

Fakey Smith : ya lor.. your job sucks. just do for money lor. or you can change a job since you are so good.

Truth Smith : I think your job already not too bad. Do not be so picky lah anyway your job is paying you pretty well for the things you are doing. Be positive a bit lah.

"My boyfriend might be cheating on me and I am paranoid"

Fakey Smith : maybe he really is. why not you go stalk him lah..

Truth Smith : don't be paranoid lah. What did he do ?

The above examples might not be the best examples but more often than not speaking the truth takes more courage and skill cause you have to be very tactful to break the bad news to a person where else it's a no brainier to just agree and move on. Is that what you guys want? Sorry but that's just not my style. If you are the loser in the situation and you come along to me and looking for some sympathy, sorry mate not in this house.

We are not being pessimistic or always putting the blame on ourselves but when situation happens, we always try to self reflect and stay objective on the topic before pointing our fingers on others. Do not get me wrong, I am not promoting emo-ness here, I am not asking you to put everything on your shoulder and be paranoid all over again. No i am not.. I just realize that people I see looking at nowadays have this problem on pushing the blame. Is it the education? The Culture? The parenting trend ?

Finally, any similarities to actual people, events and pets are purely coincidental.

Me to you signing off with a song by Akon - You can put the blame on me.