The People's Champion...

Was suppose to be going to Mambo last Wednesday until something came up last min and we have to call mambo off but it ain't the very last of Wednesday outing.

I was with keong at this funky "psycho" talk which turn out to be psych0-ing you to join their school and if you join their school you can earn this.. do this.. do that.. blah blah blah...

The only thing about that talk that both of us agree and like was the speaker's voice.. it's deep and the kind that you wouldn't feel irritated or agitated after listening for too long...

Ashton dinner is always FTW for Keong and I but there was like X number of people who are also suppose to be going to mambo with us but due to our aeroplane flying mission the party was called off and it turns into a kopi-la-ing session @ Carl's Jr.

We KO our dinner and we were down at Carl's at no time. And we met up with some of Keong's Ex Tennis team peeps like Merv,Derru,Sim which i already met and Merv's gf as well - Kat..

It was a good laff and we all enjoyed ourselves ( I hope for the rest but at least for me I did )

And I brought up this topic while we were on our way home. I was saying i pretty much enjoy hanging out like this with people i don't really know that well cause you hear different story and you dun judge them in any basis and generally we give each other more "respect" than your good old friends whom u are closer with ?

So what causes this feeling ? - i explain it in a manner for example - If Kelvin always know i dun drink green tea and when we say we share a drink and he buy Green Tea. He might have slip his mind this time round but i will judge and be skeptical - Did he do it on purpose ? or Sian.. know him so well how come he forget i dun green green tea - which might spoilt my nite.. BUT, being not as close, say merv got me agreen tea.. i wouldn't show it out.. my EQ is telling me that Merv doesn't no.. and being him and not as close he will also double check " is this okay ? " i will also reply " oh it's okay it's okay "

Which is why i felt the more comfortable a person get's with another, more formality is drop, more respect is drop, but of course on the other hand, more concern and more care is bagged. And this is where miscommunication and the didn't sync part screw everything up between friends. When Mr A felt that we all so close already.. i think it's okay.. but Mr B felt unappreciated when he help Mr A so much, getting this, aliasing this and that and Mr A didn't even buy him a drink nor did Mr A even say thanks.. Mr A just felt like it's okay.

It is this difference in rules which make people different and makes things complicated. Is there no way we can sync this like pairing our bluetooth devices ? - NO .

And Keong was saying I am a pretty relational kinda person where i make an effort to update people around me what's happening to me ( no.. not just my plurk,twitter or FB ) is how I make an effort to msn people and talk, sms people, meet up with people kinda thing, and yup.. without knowing it i am actually pretty good with small talks which i suppose that's what made me make friends pretty easy..

Keong always felt that he is anti-social, dun bother to play his part in a friendship,not out spoken but i dunno abt how he treat his other friend but for me i felt that he is not. IF keong is anti social, he wouldn't be that close with his ex-tennis players, he wouldn't be having friends like us, he wouldn't have student going to him for more lesson. I guess one thing which keong didn't know that he made a difference in his friend's life was making them feel appreciated..

I duno about the rest, I might be wrong but Keong always make me feel appreciated when i do even a very little things he show gratitude and he remember it as well. And he always tell me what go am I in and stuff which i suppose he make people feel confident about themselves too ?

But then again, making new friends and the ability to keep the old friends is two different ball game...

I just can't find the original article i read few days back but if i am not wrong.. it's something like this -

A boy and a girl was playing. The boy has marbles and the girl has sweets. The boy told the girl why not he trade with her all his marbles for all her sweets and the girl agree. But b4 they traded, the boy kept the biggest and most beautiful marble in his pocket but the girl give him all the sweets she has.

When night fall and both the kids were on bed, the boy couldn't sleep. Staying awake the whole night wondering if the girl kept to herself the best and biggest sweet while the girl is sleeping soundly with the new marbles she acquired...

Bottom Line : If you don't give your hundred percent, you will doubt on people's effort too

I know i know.. i know people will argue that there are people who dun give 100 but still can slp, there are pple who give 100 and got their feeling cheated..

so what's ur choice ?

Mr.Smith,human are disgusting..




"我就是我行我素　我沒有風度　我只有態度　你說我太酷"