Winning in Life

Because winning makes me happy.  Like this happy.

I must admit I am one of the most competitive guys around. I hate to lose and besides hating to lose I don't handle losing well. Like some people can just let it slide but not me. It will surface in my head over and over again. For somethings, not all. There are things that I know I'm not as good and losing is okay but there are somethings that I just cannot.

Like for example if you have never played a card game before but you beat me to it in your 1st try.

I used to be pissed off losing on the Mahjong table but life goes on and I must admit things like gambling is really 15% Skill and 85% luck. being more experienced or knowing the game better doesn't really help.

That is also why I hate myself when I am into something. Because I cannot accept or forgive myself when I put in effort and I don't do well. Probably also the reason why I don't really study so at least I have a safety net to tell myself "it is because i didn't try hard enough". #FailedLogic

Losing in games and sports aside, what makes one win in life is more important. I know you might probably tell me things like life ain't a competition and when it is not, what's there to win? How is it not a competition? Even if you don't aim to beat others you must always aim to top yourself. every year.

Me 2010 Me 2011 Me 2012 Me 2013 Me 2014

Like how I look back at each year. I always ensure that I moved on in life. Improving and doing something better and crazier. I think being competitive did make me more driven in many things. I look at someone I know 5 years ago and where he have gotten in this 5 years and I will ask myself where am I. Did we both make progress? Is this progress the "industry standard"?

Did I even grow old besides growing fat?

It is not always about driving a bigger car or earning more money. I guess this is the mistake we always make in a judgement call when it comes to competition. Like pointed out in the Book "David and Goliath" by Malcom Gladwell. Very often when we placed two singles together and try to forecast who will win a fight, we will just take it that Goliath will win since he is bigger but we forget that being bigger is not everything in a fight. Skill, Speed, Luck and many other things play a big part.  I guess we have to set our KPI right.

If your goal is to have kids and happy family and all I want is to sleep with the most numbers of girls in Singapore with D cups and above, this two things just does live in the same silo and you get what I mean. So how does one win in life when happiness can't be quantified?

I guess for me is really about being in control with your own life. Doing the things you like, having time for your love one, earning enough to not worry about bread on the table, control your hours, having enough time for anything yourself and also others. Achieving what you wish to in balance. You don't want to be the richest man but lonely. You do not want to have friends around you but no money in your pocket (which is impossible in reality because you know how many friends will leave you once you have nothing for them to gain)

Nobody stays a winner forever which also means you could be the next. It is okay to fail but you can never be afraid of it because sometimes you just have to take the leap of faith in order to succeed.

Sometimes we have to be happy with what we have but sometimes we just have to do what it takes to make us happy.

Kobe is probably the most competitive person you see on the court these days. Because he worked hard and winning means a lot to this man. Sometimes I just can't stand NBA players who lost the games and all smiles. Yes Dwight, you.

Ok, enough of wasting time in the office or on the toilet bowl reading this crap. Get back to work and go out there and win it tiger.

TL;DR Version 

Topic: Winning In Life
Morale Of Story: None
Author's Note: Thank you for reading.
*All Images of Kobe doesn't not belongs to me. As Found on Google Images.