What is cheating to you ??

So thanks to Mr.Jack Neo we are all talking about cheating on your partners and what not. Topic been flying around the office and question such as "why" , "Are all man like that" or "whose fault".

My take of this is that somehow some where down the road be it man or woman,everyone will cheat. This thought scares all the aunties in my office and debating on why am I this negative or why do I feel so. And my debate is - what is "cheat" ? The problem is not about cheating but the problem is about what is cheating all about.

In this post, I will talk about the different kind of "cheat" and until which level of "cheating" can you accept ? I felt that it is just a matter of how the other half take it and if the other half take it well and accept it as it is, it's not much of an act of "cheat" to debate about. So what is your limit of you allowing your partner to "cheat" ? What are the actions which are acceptable and which are not ?

1. The "Making Friends"

He/She has a MSN, Facebook, Twitter account where he/she make new friends online. Be surprise I have a friend who doesn't have any of this because the GF felt uneasy for him to make new friends of opposite gender. Ironically she has them =.=

So is making new friend by adding them on MSN or Twitter of the opposite gender a type of cheating?

2. The " Colleagues" / "Clients"

He/She has very close opposite gender colleagues/clients and he/she go out alone after work for dinner or a drink.

So is having dinner or drink alone after work consider a date? Is it consider cheating even when he/she tells you about it ? And what if he/she did not tell you ?

3. The "It's on the way"

He send her home every night after work because it's on the way. Really ???

4. The "Birthday Friend"

Your partner is choosing a birthday present for the opposite gender but not you. The person is NOT your common friend and when ask who is it for the answer is "you don't know one lah"

5. The " SMSpal"

They ain't penpal cause we are going paperless, they exchange sms-es once in awhile about life and keeping each other updated.

So is SMSing the opposite gender cheating or it depends on the content of the SMSes ?

6. The " Common Interest" ( Not Sex)

They share the same interest which you don't. Your bf/gf loves to go to the art gallery which you hate the most and he/she just like it as much as ur partner and they visit places like this together.

So are you willing to compromise on this or will you try to make yourself interested with the same interest as well ?

7. The " I bump into him/her"

Let's take is positive that this ain't an excuse. He came home late and he mention that he bump into some old friends and spend the evening chatting.

8. The "Ex-es"

They might have broken up way before you comes into the picture but they are still good friends. They meetup for food once in awhile be it in a group or just the two of them.

So is meeting the ex the taboo ??

9. The "Fuck Buddy"

He/she loves you for sure but sex to your partner is like a sports where two person have a little more notti fun. How many of you can accept this ?

10. The " It's not my fault but yours"

"You are cold towards me", "You are always busy", "You didn't give me the time", "Where were you when I needed you the most ? " Some very typical sentence you'll see. So are your partner considered cheating when it's your "fault" ?

So are your partner cheating on you or are you cheating on your partner ? What's your take ?

"And now ladies and gentlemen, that's the ugly truth"