Life as a (middle class male) Singaporean.

Just a little disclaimer before I carry on with this blogspot. This blogspot is simply inspired by my current new life. The fact that I just got married. I just shifted out from my parents and the fact that I still can't fucking pass my IPPT. This post is NOT to compare with anyone. I am NOT saying that being a upper class or being a female is any easier. I am talking about this from a very personal point of view. I know it's obvious cause it's my blog but I know there are still mofo out there who will say that I'm a spoil brat or a little whiny boy but the purpose of this blog is is purely for me to discover and also to pen down my current situation. I am really trying to adapt to this life but it is not easy and there is no cheat code on cheatcc.com nor gamefaq.com. 

I WANNA BREAK FREE~~

Work

Surprisingly work is the easiest out of every thing I have for me on the table now. I go to work as an office worker like anyone else and I know off like everyone else. But here comes the issue.


IPPT

I can't pass my IPPT ever since I ORD. Shortly after I ORD-ed, I injured my shoulder and I was unable to do any physical exercise for close to 8 months and anything after that was a downhill. "Thanks" to our army system, we are given an opportunity of failing. We "simply" have to attend either 10 IPT lessons everyday after work or 20 lessons of RT. It's that simple. BUT, session starts at 7pm and you have to fucking reach at 6.45pm which means you fucking have to leave office earlier than anyone else. Will this affect my performance in the office? Will this make my boss unhappy? YES.

Going for training twice or thrice a week, will that take up time after work? YES. Does that means you have less time for your family and wife? YES. Do we still have time to make babies or even spend time with your kids for those who have kids? NO. And this is not all, what's next?

ICT

So each year you have to go back to camp for In Camp Training or better known as Reservist. This will take you out from work from 7 days to even 21 days or more. Must your company allow you to go? Yes. Are they happy? No. What does gahment do in return? Pay the company back for my pay but can the company get a person who already know my job and replace me only for that 7 - 21 days? NO. Do I have time for my family or baby making again? NO.

Parents and In-laws.

The parents loves you. The in-laws love you(or their daughter). They miss us. They wish to spend time with us for dinner or lunch or just a get together session at least once a week and we have to do it cause we don't stay together under the same roof.

Area Cleaning.

So without the parents at home and since there is just the two of us, it doesn't make sense both money wise and logic wise for us to have a maid. That means we have to clean the place ourselves, iron our clothes and to eat healthy we are encouraged to eat home cook food. So with 2 days going back to the in-laws and maybe 3 days going back camp what other time do we have?

I really respect how people do all these and have kids and still help out at grassroot or some other 3rd party organization. And I am talking about me returning back to a life of a normal office worker. What about people who runs your own company like I use to do? We have to meet client or socialize even after office hours. We have to run the company but yet still go back for IPT, IPPT, ICT? Are we sure we can encourage entrepreneurship in such situation? The worry of not having CPF to pay for the house. The fear of not having stable income. We should be fighting for career before settling down but yet on the other hand we need to GRAB our HDB any chance available for middle income people like us. We can't take the risk. And we already spent 2 yrs in army and that makes us way slower than the ladies who started their career before us. And the ladies will mind if we earn less than them?

Wife 

I am lucky I got my gf back in school. Else, would we have time to date someone with all these in mind and on the plate? And even with a wife, that doesn't means it's the end of relationship. We still need to keep the relationship fresh and exciting but does our schedule allows? After spending time with parents, in camp, at work, socializing and all. Do we have time for alone time? Baby making time? What about exercise time? Hobby time? Me time?  

I love Army.

Don't get me wrong. Do not read this post as if I am complaining about army. TO be frank, I love the Army. I enjoyed myself during the 2yrs of service. I made friends, I made brothers. I learn a lot of things and experience a lot of things that I am sure that only army could have given that to me. But it seems to me that a lot of these policies + parents + work is really making me left with little or no time for myself. Is it because I have very bad time management? Is it because I have too much on my plate? 

How do you guys make it happen? I have no clue like totally. Can someone teach me how to be a good citizen, soldier, worker, husband, lover, father, son, son-in-law and an international porn staridol? Can one really excel in all?

Mr.Smith, life is a journey, we seek and we learn but the ironic part is that when you really know the answer, your life is over.